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From Courage to Change of April 19;

Learning about alcoholism has helped me to find serenity after years of struggling. I see now that alcoholics have a disease: They are ill, not bad. By attending Al-Anon meetings on a regular basis, reading Al-Anon Conference Approved Literature (CAL), and sitting in on open AA meetings, I have gained some insight into what is and is not reasonable to expect when dealing with an alcoholic.

I ‘ve learned that I have the ability to adjust my expectations so that I no longer set myself up for constant disappointment. For instance, I have stopped expecting a drinking alcoholic to keep every promise. This makes my life more manageable.

The knowledge I gain in Al-Anon has dispersed many of my fears and made room for a newfound compassion. I see that I am not the only one with good ideas, valid criticisms, and noble motives.

Today’s Reminder

Learning about the disease of alcoholism can help me become more realistic about a loved one’s illness –and then to make better choices for myself.

“I have learned techniques for dealing with the alcoholic, so that I can develop a relationship with the person behind the disease.” ~ Al-Anon Faces Alcoholism

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It is easier to receive the mercy of the disease concept of Alcoholics Anonymous than it is to give it. It is easier to judge harshly, until I realize the world I build with my judgements requires I become a subject within its borders.

If I judge the alcoholic or the adult child of an alcoholic (ACOA) then I must judge myself, that is, condemn myself, for being overwhelmed by depression or anxiety. The disease concept allows me to embrace objective accountability with productive patience for myself and others who hold an important place in my life. I don’t want my environment to be built by reactive animal instincts of fearful isolation. Let me and those around me live freely to experience times of greater self-healing in the rooms of connective health.

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