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From Courage to Change of May 23:
Sometimes the healthiest thing I can do for myself is to admit that I’m not perfect. I am human. I make mistakes.
But it isn’t always easy to admit this to someone else, especially when my mistake affects them. Pretending that something never happened, or that it doesn’t matter, or justifying the action seems so much more inviting to me. But there is a price to pay if I refuse to own up when I’ve been wrong — guilt.
For years I dragged guilt behind me like a heavy duffel bag. Al-Anon offers me an alternative — the Tenth Step. I continue taking personal inventory and when I am wrong, I promptly admit it. When I admit the error, I take responsibility for my actions. I free myself from the burden of an embarrassing secret, and I move closer to accepting my imperfection. It becomes much easier to love myself if I accept myself as I truly am, mistakes and all.
Today’s Reminder
Today I will have the courage to look the truth in the face, admit my errors and my achievements, appreciate my growth, and make amends where I have done harm.
“I care about truth not for truth’s sake but for my own.”
~ Samuel Butler
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“…they cannot after a time differentiate the true from the false.”
~ Dr. Silkworth in ‘The Doctor’s Opinion’ of Alcoholics Anonymous
The first principle of the 12 Steps is honesty, truth, and a genuine self-awareness. The core of alcoholic insanity is persistent, recurrent delusions. It possesses an individual and echoes through the web of intimacy supporting that power of the chemical parasite. The confession in meetings that one is an alcoholic or addict is a hard-won, honest recognition of the problem. The individual could just as easily say, “I am an alcoholic, and I will not lie to myself any longer about that reality.” In Al-Anon one could say their name and confess that they have a self-destructive obsession with the alcoholic/addict in their lives. They probably don’t because part of their path of honesty is to also see the positive inventory of their lives separate from their loved ones.
The famous quote from Shakespeare says, “To thine own self be true, and it must follow, as the night the day, thou canst not be false to any man,” seems to suggest that a good litmus test for one’s ability to be true to oneself is found in the demonstration of how true one is to other people.
Daily Reprieve 
August 31, 2023 at 5:26 pm
Brilliant ! Loved it all especially the frog! 🐸
August 31, 2023 at 5:33 pm
Frogs have become a mascot of recovery for me. Once they could not imagine a life outside the water, but through growth and transformation they join us on land. I was once a tadpole living in a pond of alcohol. Now, I wander the earth a free…toad?
August 31, 2023 at 5:51 pm
I never had a thing for frogs until my mother in law passed away and
August 31, 2023 at 5:55 pm
Sorry that got cut off
So when my mom in law passed suddenly at the age of 50 – I found out then that she loved frogs. She started showing up as a frog every where!
My son was only 6 when she died
He became the frog 🐸 mascot for his work at a family amusement park when he was 15. My dad owns a business and the logo is a frog! Who says “relax we got this”
And then of course – the acronym for FROG meaning Fully Relying On God – says it all ❤️
August 31, 2023 at 6:44 pm
I love it. Thank-you for sharing that.