Endigar 571 ~ Fixing Me, Not You

From the Daily Reflections of October 10;

If somebody hurts us and we are sore, we are in the wrong also.  (Twelve Steps and Twelve Traditions, page 90)

What a freedom I felt when this passage was pointed out to me! Suddenly I saw that I could do something about my anger, I could fix me, instead of trying to fix them. I believe that there are no exceptions to the axiom. When I am angry, my anger is always self-centered. I must keep reminding myself that I am human, that I am doing the best I can, even when that best is sometimes poor. So I ask God to remove my anger and truly set me free.





This is not a call to become a Vulcan (Live Long and Prosper) by purging ourselves of all emotional responses.  Anger is natural and may serve a purpose to warn us of changes that need to take place in our approach to life.  I think what the 12 & 12 is identifying as wrong is a seething, festering anger that corrodes the resistance to impulsive, reactive living.  When anger comes, I need to use the steps to process it.  I must insure that it is an event and not a lifestyle.

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