Endigar 447 ~ Living Our Amends

From Today’s Daily Reflections;

“Years of living with an alcoholic is almost sure to make any wife or child neurotic. The entire family is, to some extent, ill.”  (Alcoholics Anonymous, page 122)

It is important for me to realize that, as an alcoholic, I not only hurt myself, but also those around me. Making amends to my family, and to the families of alcoholics still suffering, will always be important. Understanding the havoc I created and trying to repair the destruction, will be a lifelong endeavor. The example of my sobriety may give others hope, and faith to help themselves.



Quote from the Batman character in The Dark Knight;   “Because sometimes… the truth isn’t good enough.  Sometimes people deserve more.  Sometimes people deserve to have their faith rewarded.”

That quote has often resonated deeply for me.  That entire ending sends shivers down my spine.

Family should build and pass on myths.  Myths are not fairy tales.  They are useful stories constructed to point its members toward core values and encourage strength and growth.  Alcoholism takes a crap on family myths and thus causes trust, faith, and inspiration to evaporate in the storm of futility and disappointment.

An amends is not just about facing the truth and taking responsibility.  In families, it is about rewriting some powerful myths with our lives.  It is about rewarding the faith of those who still love us, or are willing to try.  A recovered alcoholic is a miraculous event.  It is a great living legacy to pass on to our family.

Quote from Hub McCann in Secondhand Lions;   “Sometimes the things that may or may not be true are the things that a man needs to believe in the most: that people are basically good; that honor, courage, and virtue mean everything; that power and money, money and power mean nothing; that good always triumphs over evil; and I want you to remember this, that love, true love, never dies… No matter if they’re true or not, a man should believe in those things because those are the things worth believing in.”

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