Endigar 394 ~ Happiness is Not the Point

From Today’s Daily Reflections;

I don’t think happiness or unhappiness is the point. How do we meet the problems we face? How do we best learn from them and transmit what we have learned to others, if they would receive the knowledge?  (As Bill Sees It, page 306)

In my search “to be happy,” I changed jobs, married and divorced, took geographical cures, and ran myself into debt-financially, emotionally and spiritually. In A.A., I’m learning to grow up. Instead of demanding that people, places and things make me happy, I can ask God for self-acceptance. When a problem overwhelms me, A.A.’s Twelve Steps will help me grow through the pain. The knowledge I gain can be a gift to others who suffer with the same problem. As Bill said, “When pain comes, we are expected to learn from it willingly, and help others to learn. When happiness comes, we accept it as a gift, and thank God for it.” ( As Bill Sees It, p. 306)



The process of problem solving is to confront them, learn from them, and then find a willing place to transmit what we learn.  The expectations of happiness obscure this simple and powerful process.  Happiness comes in its own form not sculpted by our hands and is fed by our connections in life.  Our side of the street is working the process, and God’s side of the street is crafting connections that constitute happiness.  In the military there was a philosophy that came from the focus required at the firing range and may be applicable here.  Stay in your lane.  Hit you target, not your neighbor’s.  My lane is designated by the 12 step process of life.  I will stay in my lane.

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