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Just started reading “How Al-Anon Works.”

For those of us who never even knew the drinker, recognizing the true nature of the problem can be even more difficult.  We may have been affected by the alcoholism of a grandparent or distant relative whom we barely knew, or by relatives or friends who have been sober as long as we’ve known them.  Yet the effects of this disease are no less profound and far-reaching.  Often, our relatives never recognized the effects of alcoholism and inadvertently passed on those effects to us.  We may, for instance, have picked up the struggle in the form of daily bouts with anxiety, or we may have difficulty trusting anyone or anything, always waiting for chaos or disaster to strike, even when all seems well.

This resonates for me.

Even if we have no idea whether or not anyone around us has had a drinking problem, we can see the effects of alcoholism in our own lives if we know what to look for.  We who have been affected by someone else’s drinking find ourselves inexplicably haunted by insecurity, fear, guilt, obsession with others, or an overwhelming need to control every person and situation we encounter.  And although our loved ones appear to be the ones with the problems, we secretly blame ourselves, feeling that somehow we are the cause of the trouble, or that we should have been able to overcome it with love, prayer, hard work, intelligence, or perseverance.

Yes, I have felt this.  Hurt and worried.  Frustrated.  Resentful.

We urge you to try our program.  It has helped many of us find solutions that lead to serenity.  So much depends on our own attitudes, and as we learn to place our problem in its true perspective, we find it loses its power to dominate our thoughts and lives.


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