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From Courage to Change of Jun 01:
A longtime member says, “An expectation is a premeditated resentment.” I take this statement to suggest that when I have a resentment I can look to my expectations for a probable source.
Here’s an example: I have a brother who is less attentive to being prompt than I am. When I make a plan with him that involves meeting at a certain time, I am cooperating in establishing conditions that encourage me to nurse a resentment. On the other hand, when I make a plan with my brother that is based on no expectation of promptness, I feel no resentment.
Today’s Reminder
I have the right to choose my own standards of conduct, but I do not have the right or the power to impose those standards on others.
“I have accepted myself and I’m beginning to accept other people the way they are each day. Now I have fewer resentments.”
~ Living with Sobriety
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I would say that an expectation that goes against established experience is a resentment waiting to happen. I do have a right to seek reciprocated respect. When someone proves that they are incapable of personal integrity in their interaction with me, resentment comes when I take no action to care about myself. Their word, their expression of Self, is weak and corruptive. Nursing a resentment is weak and corruptive on my part.
I have no expectations of a corpse. I have very little expectations of a stranger. The more intimate a relationship becomes, the more I seek reciprocated respected. Resentments, I believe, come from my inactivity and whining more than from expectations. I could be wrong. I have been before. I don’t think I am.
Daily Reprieve 
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