Daily Reprieve

Meditating on Step One realities in ACA:

~ I am powerless over the effects of alcoholism and family dysfunction.

~ I am powerless over the “Laundry List traits,” or the traits I developed to cope with my family’s dysfunction.

~ My life is unmanageable when I focus on others rather than myself.

~ I did not cause my family’s addiction or dysfunction.

~ My feelings and thoughts are separate from the thoughts of my parents and my family.

~ I can stop trying to heal or to change my family through my current relationships. I can stop trying to change others.

~ I can stop condemning myself without mercy.

~ I am a valuable person.

~ The solution is to become my own loving parent. I will learn to reparent myself with gentleness, humor, love, and respect.

~ As a Self-parent, I seek the real identity of my core being, and increased self-esteem, genuine courage before authority figures establishing win-win social negotiations, development of my intrinsic ability to share intimacy, replace fears of abandonment with attraction to strength without losing a tolerance of weakness, to feel and appreciate stability, peacefulness, and the reality of financial security, to learn how to play and have fun in life, and to choose to love people who can love and be responsible for themselves.

~ As a Self-parent I will teach my inner core child to establish healthy boundaries so that such beneficial limits will become easier to set; I will teach him to make healthier decisions so that he will no longer fear success nor failure; I will teach him to connect with a support network that will help him slowly release his dysfunctional behaviors; and I will teach him to work with his Higher Power to expect the best and get it.

Paraphrased from the Steps Workbook of ACA.

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